Disclaimer: In no way does this author intend to push spanking as a lifestyle. There is a long and colourful history to those who pursue spanking, whether it is used as a method of discipline or foreplay to sex. There is a rather large community of people who join spanking sites and the reasons are myriad. There are many flavours and textures to those who either want to be spanked or want to be the spanker. If this author meanders down politically incorrect roads, do not take it personally. This is not intended to convert anyone's belief system nor is this intended to make a societal statement. The game is marketing.
What Spanking Is NOT
There are those who will include spanking on their BDSM or general fetish sites. Our marketing research has shown this is not very effective. Spankers and spankees are looking for one thing. Spanking. By itself. You can throw a little vanilla bondage into a spanking site; but, mostly, they want to see spanking. For those who have no desire to live the domestic discipline life and only employ spanking as foreplay, they still want to see spanking on any pay site or free site you create. There is roleplaying involved with both roles, spanker and spankee.
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"It's all about power and control. Who has it. Who doesn't." |
It's all about power and control. Who has it. Who doesn't. There are men and women who want to give up control; but, they don't want to
EASILY give up control or grant a shift of power. Most of the folks who join spanking sites WISH to be spanked or WISH to be the one spanking. Chances are, there is no such arrangement in their lives. When creating this type of site, there is no need for any sexuality, other than his/her bare bottom. What makes spanking sexual is the anticipation, the words, the preliminary ritualistic set up for said discipline, the tone of voice, facial expressions, the actual spanking, the humiliation and the aftermath, such as corner time.
For those who fantasize about this lifestyle of domestic discipline or play 'bedroom games', those who join sites want to see role playing.
The Naughty Wife
The Naughty Husband
Teacher/Student
Boss/Employee
Spanking is NOT about pain.
There are many content providers whose models refuse to be spanked. Understandably, pictures of people being spanked look to be painful. That is far from true. Repeated light taps on a bare bottom will NOT result in pain; rather a tingling. But, the repetition of spanks with either hand or implement will bring a redness to the cheeks and it will LOOK as if the spankee is in a great deal of pain. Prior to the spanking, it's all in the model's look. She/he should look like a deer caught in the headlights. Startled. Then, defiance at getting caught at whatever misdeed has occurred. Remorse. Trying to talk their way out of it, to no avail. Finally. Submission to the inevitable. The spanker looks stern. Angry, but not violent. Never backs down. Taps his/her foot. Points fingers. Beckons. Does the deed, not as enjoyment. This is a punishment, a recourse for a behaviour that is unacceptable.
There are those who consider pain to be an integral part of spanking. Our research has found those who partner pain as part of their pleasure will join sites whose content is self-shot or the site owners are into this particular splinter group lifestyle arrangement. These pictures are usually not for sale to webmasters. There is a world of difference between those into the life, where pain IS the desire and those who are into the ritualistic fantasy of being spanked. This is not to say that a spanking should not be painful. The body does release endorphins that cause a "high". Anyone who is a runner knows this feeling well. Content providers do not have to go down this road to shoot photos or movies for the type of site being suggested here.
A few words have to be said about the parental implications. There are those who believe that the spankee, who, by the way, never wants to be called that, wants to return to childhood.
There are those who liken spanking to a parental/child scenario. There are whispers of perversion and pedophilia; or, at the very least, derangement. Anyone who wants to be spanked or wants to spank surely must be deviant in some way.
Here's the reality. It really doesn't matter why anyone has a desire for spanking. What matters is the fulfillment of a fantasy. When creating a spanking site, the psychological implications or distastes for such an activity are not germane.
In fact, spanking has it's roots deeply entrenched in history. Women have been receiving spankings from men for many centuries. This was part of an accepted lifestyle. It was not talked about and there was no pleasure gained by either the man or the woman. It was considered to be part of the man's role as head of household and part of marriage. This author is not addressing those who beat their wives. That is another issue and is not part of this article. Plus, many children grow up, having never been spanked; yet, they desire it. They cannot easily find a partner to grant their wish, so spanking sites are where they go to live out their fantasy vicariously through pictures, stories and movies.
There are still marriages where spanking is part of the lifestyle. In today's society, these men and women must keep their life hidden from any publicity. There are many states that consider spanking a form of abuse. There are many men and women in today's culture who long for the return of spanking. When a wife speaks rudely or a husband stays out all night. Our society has been inundated with references to spanking. This author sees "humourous threats" on the resource boards from one webmaster to another.
Ask any man, when his wife or SO curses at him, if he would like to put her over his knee and give her naked bottom a good spanking? How many do you think would turn down that opportunity? Not too damned many. We joke about it on the boards. But, let's get serious, here. This is a widely held wish or fantasy that many men have. They do not say it out loud because it is not politically correct and it can also be construed as a form of domestic abuse and is an arrestable offense. What a spanking site portrays is the deliverance of a woman's bottom into the hands of a man who's had enough. Enough of the smartass, condescending remarks. Enough of the messy house or lack of money sense.
On the flip side, there are men who want their wives to be the boss. These men are primarily in a decision making position in their careers. By the time they come home from work, they are tired. They don't want to make any choices. They would like their wives/SO's to take total charge of their domestic life. These are the guys who curse too much, fart too much, leave their clothes lying around on purpose, or stay out too late.
The attention they need is a paddle on their bare bottom, a time for them to stand in the corner. This has nothing to do with their masculinity. By and large, these are men who are not gay. These are the men whose wives won't accommodate their need. They join spanking sites to see anyone get spanked. They will even join male/female sites, just to see someone get a spanking. They would prefer sites that offered domestic discipline for their gender. A female boss. A wife or girlfriend. A nurse or doctor. Any scenario that involves their male bottom being spanked.
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